Going against others wishes
Posted Mar 11, 2017, 11:51 PM by Pavithra LHWhen someone did something to hurt you and your family or friends, you face a challenge of going against their wishes to heal your wounds. Most hold on to what happened, they like the wound and don't want healing to happen. Whatever the event was, it threatened their ego's image that it held and it is angry, it wants revenge, it wants the other go down, hard. The empty shell that ego held had a small crack with this event and the person responsible for this must pay, it says. It made an enemy out of this event and it won't let go.
This is how ego perceive the event and the person is unaware of the inner mechanics of how this works but for them they feel threatened, they in this case is ego in the driver seat. So they are looking for ways to tarnish the image of the other person and find ways to get back at the person.
Mean while you feel the pain but understand what has happened and know that the ego within you is hurt and you not are letting ego takes the lead in your mind. In fact you are looking for ways to forgive, let go of the pain and bring peace to you. You are bringing more and more awareness to the event and stay in the moment as ego complains. You are willing to mend relationships, forgive and move on but you have a huge challenge against you. The people around you do not want you to forgive, do not want you to have a relationship with the person that apparently hurt you. In some cases this is where we are with situations and relationships. We have to face our own inner distortions and others as well. It's a challenge to go against the wishes of the people around you. They stand on your way.
They ask you, don't you have shame? How can you forgive someone like that? What's wrong with you? That person hurt you, you must ever let them in. They seems to have completely forgotten or unaware of humanness, that people make mistakes, that who we are and what's the purpose of our existence. And they want to live their lives holding grudges, hurting others and having enemies in their life. In find, they find it enjoyable to talk about the other in a negative way and hurt their image, finding faults in their character and somehow or other make the other pay for what they have done.
In all these cases the ego is the one who got hurt and it is the one that is seeking revenge but we are so unaware of this fact, we think ego personality is who we are and we are giving in to this life style unaware of the consequences it brings to us. Living a spirit driven life among these kind of personalities is a challenge. Many ask frequently, including myself, how do you deal with them?, as they are a force against spirit driven life.
But there is a another fact that we rarely see. Life brings us people and situations to make us more aligned to sprit. So these are challenges, lessons that we must face; lean the lesson and move on. This is how life works, these are facts. If we don't see it this way we get hurt. We cannot personalize the event and say that it is a good or bad event. It is just an event that was brought in by life and we are to face it and move on. Everybody gets what they need, and that's how it works. We are not victims of the event, or the life. Otherwise we get dragged in to human drama and we think we are victims of life.
We all find our own ways to deal with situations, but we must remember it is all ego. Patience, understanding where they are coming from, seeing ego traps, finding neutral communication or non threatening communication so the ego do not feel challenged by us, explanations that might make the ego feel less threatened, finding peaceful resolution among people. Best way is to not let others ego feel threaten by you and your decision. However standing for what we believe and not letting go of our ideals and believe is a must. I say for all us, whatever the neutral method we choose we must not give up our way of life what we are building with eternal spirit. Those teachings and living must be in the forefront of our lives whatever we do.
ධර්මය රකින්නා ධර්මය විසින් අරක්ශා කරයි
Posted Jan 24, 2017, 3:48 AM by Pavithra LH
He who protects/live aligned to the Dharma is protected by Dharma - Buddha
One who lives aligned to the natural creational laws are protected by the natural laws. The Dharma or teachings of any religion that has teachings that are in alignment to the natural laws or explain how the natural laws work are there to support us.
When we learn and live by these Dharma or teachings then we align ourselves to the creation and its natural laws. These are the laws of one. Creational laws that are there for all beings and all thing. Things work in alignment to these laws in natural creation, the laws explain how the mechanics of creation work. We simply have forgotten what these laws are and live in disharmony of them. When we live in disharmony we cause harm to the creation as well as to ourselves.
The saying says that the ones who protects or in alignment to the Dharma are protected by the Dharma. It does not say it is done by any god, deity or entity. It says the Dharma is protecting those who are in align to it. Worshipping any entity or god is not mentioned in here. How can Dharma protect anyone, it simply is a teaching, a bunch of information explaining how to live? If we try to understand this, in this case Dharma is the explanation of how the laws, the mechanics of the creation works. When we live by them they assist us to be in alignment to the creation and its creational force. It gets us out of the way of living against the creational force and also assist us to be in alignment so the force can take care of us. So the result is the creation/creator can protects its children/creation.
The purpose of the creational force is to support the creation in whatever the way it works and protects the creation and its children. That means protects us, support us, provide for us, basically take care of us. When we live align to the force we allow it to do what it meant to do. But when we are against it, then it cannot take care of us. This is when we feel like we are being abandoned, nothing's working for us and all the support seems to be going the other way. When this happens we have to look and see how we are not living by the Dharma and make and attempt to live by them. When we are against this force, the nature, then what we create is artificial, and that takes lot of effort as we are doing something against the force, against the natural flaw. Then we feel that we have to work hard to make things happen. This is the way of the mind and its false self ego. We must learn to see ego's ways and what natural ways are so we can work with natural force, making things easy for us.
It's just like a leaf, it doesn't try to go against the wind, it simply allows the wind to take it where it suppose to go. There seems to be surrender and trust. No big effort is needed by the leaf to travel, it simply allow, by aligning to the laws, meaning be a part of the creation. If the leaf is communicating with the force then it must be asking the force to take it somewhere that is supporting whatever the purpose it suppose to be. From what we can see, there is effortlessness and a purpose to everything; that means this creational force is highly conscious and aware of everything that the creation needs. So being in alignment to it, and allow is what is being ask of us, if we want to live peacefully in this creation.
Many religious teachings were from masters who understood these laws. They leaned and lived by these laws so the creation expressed itself through them effortlessly. With this understanding, they explain what they know to others so they too can live by these laws. Some say they perform miracles, the creation is a miracle itself. If the creation is expressing itself through these masters then they too were used to perform miracles.
These masters gave example in the forms or parables or stories to make the person understand what they meant. Some understood and others did not. These teachings are something that the person must live by and become part of them, then only they can really 'know' what these teachings meant. Over time, some of the disciples wrote these teachings down in whatever the way they understood. Some of the teachings are accurate, some are not and the others are somewhat not sure what that meant to a normal person, or misunderstood by many; till they live by these teachings and really understood what the real or the hidden meaning behind them.
Over the last thousands of years some of these teachings were lost, re-written or misunderstood. Others were distorted by ego driven people who were hungry for power and control. What we have right now is a mix of everything, so our job is to figure it out and live by them, so we too can be protected by Dharma.
ධර්ම ධානය ලොව උතුම්ම ධානයයි
Posted Nov 8, 2016, 11:32 PM by Pavithra LHDhammapada -
For your light reading, some of the Buddhist teachings that were translated from Pali text.
Though little he recites the Sacred Texts but acts in accordance with the teaching, forsaking lust, hatred and ignorance, truly knowing, with mind well freed, clinging to naught here and here after, he shares the fruits of the Holy life.
He whose senses are subdued, like steeds well trained by a charioteer, he whose pride is destroyed and is free from the corruptions, - such a steadfast one even the gods hold dear.
Like the earth, a balanced and well-disciplined person resents not. He is comparable to an Indrakhila. Like a pool, unsullied by mud, is; to such a balanced on life's wanderings do not arise.
Health is the highest gain. Contentment is greatest wealth. The trusty are the best kinsmen. Nibbhana is the highest bliss.
Hunger is the greatest disease. Aggregates are the greatest ill. Knowing this as it really is (the wise realize) Nibbhana, bliss supreme.
Just as the merchant, with a small escort and a great wealth, avoids a perilous route, just as one desiring to live avoids the poison, even so should one shun evil things.
Calm in his mind, calm in his speech, calm in his actions, who rightly knowing , is wholly freed, perfectly peaceful and equipoised.
There is only this moment in time
Posted Aug 19, 2016, 11:49 AM by Pavithra LHThis article was published in August 2016 News Advertiser paper.There Is Only This Moment In Time
Written by Joe Machney @ starcrystalportal.com
Everything is only a moment in time, a memory, a drop in the ocean of your life. It sounds poetic but I feel there is something to this.............
When you experience some time spent with a close friend, and you have a deep meaningful conversation where you both walk away feeling moved by the moment, it may last with you for awhile and it will in time become a happy memory that the both of you shared together. Should you meet the person again and try and repeat a similar conversation it is quite probable that it will not happen and at best the experience will feel similar, but it will never be the same as the first time. There is a reason for this.
When you look at life as a series or collection of moments than you are able to let go of attachments to them and the past. This allows for the emotional body to mature more. When a moment with a close friend, or someone whom you haven't seen for a time, is shared, it becomes a treasure for you, a special time in your life. Trying to repeat that moment with that person only leads to disappointment as there is a contract between you and that person where you are both suppose to share the time and experience together and then it will be over, the golden moment will pass and you will be asked by your spirit to move on with your life. Should you need to meet that person again and share another moment, than it will be arranged by spirit for the exchange. If not than it is important that you let that be ok.
This is a deeper and I feel more mature way of understanding friendships and the need to understand yourself better, get to know yourself more and realise that you need to be your own best friend. People will come and go in your life, but you will always have yourself. When you go to bed at night and all the noise has died down and you are alone, are you at peace with yourself? Or does the person with their arms around you give you an emotional safety net or a security that you have invested in them instead of investing in yourself?
Is it fair to ask or expect this of another human being? What if something changes? The sooner a person understands that change is the only constant in their life the sooner they will be free from bindings that they didn't even know they had. Expectations placed upon another person so that they live up to what you want them to be binds and chains both you and them, hindering growth for both parties. When one understands that there is only this moment in time then the time shared with another is always priceless because everything is given into that lone moment and you are at your very best. The people in your life are there to teach you this lesson.
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