Conscious co- creative relationships

Conscious co creative relationships  

If a person is not self-dependent or independent on their own, paying attention to themselves to understand their own weaknesses and strengths, so they can, willingly buy services to help with their weaknesses or working hard to correct those weaknesses within themselves. Or they will always look outside to take from others, what they don't have becoming a dependent on the world.  A parasite on the world. 

They form relationships with others to exchange dependency roles, which we call co-dependent relationships. They agree to fulfil certain co-depended Roles with mental contracts which bind themselves to the others to provide agreed services. These are Slave contracts that bind them to each other.    

The problem is, this a slave relationship, with a slavery obligation, where you are required to play the role whether you like it or not. You are obligated to do it and most are not willingly participating but out of desperation and survival fears, they are forced to form these contracts.   

These relationships have huge flows as one party is either forcing or manipulating to overpower other to have control in that relationship. Take advantage of the other. What they want is to take more while giving less to the together party, creating a I win you lose exchange. 

Other party too notice and also try hard to overpower the other to give less and take more from the exchange, so bother parties are in a constant battle of competing to overpower each other while in a relationship. Which is so painful and also hard to live with the each other but we still do it all the time to survive this world. 

Some, who are at a certain level understanding this inhuman and cruel exchange, are attempting to balance the exchange to keep the relationship but it's hard task to do, when you are with an extremely selfish person who is a taker.   

This is the reason for power struggles in relationships, groups, or communities where most are attempting to cut throat others to overpower to take control. So they can take more while giving less to others. 

These are Shadow identities within both parties, who play shadow dances with outside world, people as they are in their own unconscious perception, thinking and believing where every action trigger survival fear and doubt within them forcing them to act in these inhuman ways to survive. 

These shadow identities and their actions, force our unconscious mind to take on co-dependent roles with others, making us slaves to the world and those agreed roles. Where both parties expect other to fulfil their agreed role making us obligated to other. 

These are not true relationships of love, care and willing giving but inhuman slave relationships we form with others, unconsciously. 

In a relationship, where two people should be giving to each other willingly, noticing each parties' strengths and weaknesses, so that they both can willingly give other what other don't have to support, serve out of love and care.  

This must be the case with a family, group or a community.  

Everyone has equal respect for each other and understand everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses but everybody take responsibility to the other or group to contribute for the common purpose of reaching the goal of that group. They would give what they can making it their own responsibility to contribute to the group willingly in love. 

This is humanness, loyalty and love where they love themselves and take responsibility to themselves and to the group, they are part of. They contribute their strengths understating others will contribute with their own strengths so the group purpose is fulfilled. No one is used by others to just parasitise on. 

There are no over-giver or parasites in these groups. We have to always look to see, if I am an over giver that is been used by the others. Or another on the group who is simply a taker who don't take responsibility for themselves for the group they are part of. With takers we have to be careful in relationships or groups were the other expect you to do everything by yourself caring their weight on you while other contribute so little or nothing, thinking they are entitled to receive from us and the group. Entitlement is part of ego superiority where the person believe they are better than others, and without me in this group or in this relationship, other can’t live without.   

So, you expect others to give you, serve you, thinking and believing others are obligated to give you, while you simply give a little bit of scrap. Some even manipulate or force others to believe that you are giving a lot to the other with lies, gas lighting, trickery and deceptions.   

The person who is not conscious, perceive through their shadow identities, believe these shadow games as the truth and fall pray for these traps. If you are not conscious enough, this is how you fall pray and become an over giver  who gets drained dry by these parasitic takers. 

You have to be the strong one who love and protect yourself enough to realise this and say NO! to these parasitic relationship or communities. 

Conscious relationships are win / win relationships, where both party is a wiling and loving givers. Who knows your own strengths and weaknesses and also understand and trust others to contribute with their own strengths for the common purpose or common goal, making conscious co creative win/win exchanges among each other's. 

Pavithra T LH